How To Use A Couples Vibrator For Mind-Blowing Mutual Pleasure

Discover how to use a couples vibrator to spice up your love life. Explore tips for a thrilling, mutually pleasurable experience.

Published Mar 21 2024 9 min read

Exploring new ways to connect intimately can spice up a relationship, deepen the bond between partners, and bring loads of mutual pleasure. One exciting way to do that is to try out a vibrator with a partner. This guide will walk you through how to use a couples’ vibrator to target different erogenous zones and create a thrilling shared experience that goes beyond just physical satisfaction. So, if you want to add extra excitement to your intimate moments, join us on this fantastic journey!

What is a couples vibrator?

A couples’ vibrator is a type of sex toy that's made for both partners to enjoy together. Any vibrator can be used with your partner during sex, however couples vibrators are specifically designed for simultaneous stimulation and pleasure, including wearable vibrators and remote control vibrators or long-distance vibrators with app-based control. 

Select your ideal vibrator to use as a couple

From cock rings to C-shaped to remote control vibrators, there’s a wide range of vibrators to explore. To help you in this exciting process, here is a rundown of different types of vibrators couples can choose from: 

Vibrating cock rings

Vibrating cock rings are like upgraded versions of traditional cock rings with built-in motors for extra stimulation. They help increase blood flow while restricting blood in the penis, giving you or your partner harder, longer-lasting erections. And when worn during intercourse, the motor stimulates a woman’s clitoris or vulva while also providing intense stimulation for the man wearing it. Examples of vibrating cock rings include Tenuto 2, with its four powerful motors that stimulate the penis, perineum, and a partner’s clitoris and vulva. And Tenuto Mini, a more compact version of Tenuto 2 with three motors to stimulate the penis, clitoris, and vulva.

C-shaped vibrators

C-shaped vibrators are worn by women and made to arouse both the clitoris and G-spot while elevating sexual activities to the next level for both partners, giving simultaneous pleasure inside and out. When the C-shaped vibrator is worn during sex, it delivers vibrations to the woman’s G-spot and clitoris, while the male partner enjoys intense vibrations along their penis.

Double-ended vibrators

Double-ended vibrators offer couples the pleasure of simultaneous penetration and deep physical connection. With incredible flexibility and motors on each end, these vibrators can be adjusted to hit all the right pleasure points vaginally or anally. This is a popular choice for lesbian couples and adventurous couples. 

Remote control vibrators

Remote control vibrators can be controlled using a remote or smartphone, usually within a certain range through Bluetooth or similar wireless connections. While technically not always something that provides stimulation to both partners at the same time, they are designed specifically for couples’ interactions, allowing one partner to be directly involved with the other’s pleasure. Some C-shaped vibrators are also remote control vibrators, which allow both partners to control speeds, vibration patterns, and more. These remote control vibrators are great for use with a partner in the same location, or close vicinity. 

Long-distance vibrators

Long-distance vibrators are a way to connect with your partner regardless of distance. While technically also considered remote control vibrators, long-distance vibrators can be used at much further distances. They're internet-connected, usually via Wi-Fi, so you can control them using a smartphone app or website. Just like remote control vibrators, long-distance vibrators aren’t specifically a vibrator that provides simultaneous pleasure to both partners at the same time, but they are designed to promote couple’s sexual interactions, and so deserve mention. These app-controlled vibrators are a terrific way to keep the spark alive in a long-distance relationship, whether you’re enjoying mutual masturbation over video chat, or controlling your partner’s vibrator from a long distance.

How to use different couples vibrators

When using a couples’ vibrator together, consider the vibrator's design and both partners' preferences. Communicate with your partner to explore the best settings and techniques for both of you. Each type of vibrator has its specific instructions, so it’s important to understand their features. Below you'll find instructions for how to use different types of couples’ vibrators together.  

Crescendo 2 Vibrator During Sex

How to use a couple's vibrating ring

To use a couple's vibrating ring like Tenuto 2 or Tenuto Mini, the male partner places it on their penis during vaginal or anal penetration. When worn during penis-in-vagina sex or penis-in-anus sex, these vibrating cock rings provide delightful vibrations to the vulva and clitoris of the female partner. If the anal sex route is chosen, the receiving partner can also experience vibrations on the anus and perineum. The hands-free function allows for extra caressing and stimulation, making the overall experience even more enjoyable.

How to use a C-shaped couples vibrator

To enjoy a C-shaped vibrator, like the We-Vibe Sync 2 or the Lovense Lush 3, the woman inserts the shorter, curved arm vaginally to stimulate her G-spot while the external arm stimulates her clitorisWhile wearing the vibrator, her male partner penetrates her vaginally with his penis. This combination adds stimulation for both partners, making intercourse more sensational. Of course, having a penis and a vibrator inside may be a tight squeeze for some women, so make sure you take your time to adjust to the vagina stretching and use plenty of lubrication!

How to use a double-ended vibrator

Both partners can use their own end of the double-ended vibrator. For instance, one partner can insert one end into their vagina, while the other partner can choose to insert the other end anally or vaginally. Once inserted, both partners can coordinate their movements to find a pleasurable rhythm, trying out different movements like thrusting, grinding, or rocking.  This is a popular choice for lesbian couples and adventurous couples.

How to use a remote control vibrator as a couple

Remote control vibrators, or Bluetooth vibrators, can enhance the sexual experience from a distance. Some remote control vibrators have physical remote controls that are used to control the vibrator, while others are app-controlled and can be paired and controlled with a smartphone.

If you'd like to use a remote with a remote control vibrator, then follow the instructions provided with the specific remote, and toggle between buttons to change the vibration patterns, intensity, and speed of your vibrator. 

If you'd like to enjoy an app-controlled remote control vibrator with your partner, here's what you need to do:

  • Download the designated app that’s compatible with the product. If you’re using a long-distance remote vibrator, you may need to set up a profile, register the product online, or log in to the designated website or browser.
  • Follow the instructions to pair your vibrator with the app.
  • Customize the vibrations to your liking by tweaking the pattern and intensity, if applicable.
  • Get creative and incorporate the vibrator into your intimate moments by trying out different vibrator sex positions for some extra sensations.
How to use a couples remote control vibrator

There are so many ways to use remote control vibrators together as a couple, so get creative and try out different scenarios. For example, while one partner is wearing Tenuto 2, the other partner can take control of their pleasure using the remote app, edging them and deciding the perfect moment to let them orgasm. 

How do you use a couple's vibrator in more ways

Are you getting more comfortable with your new couples vibrator and want to learn more ways to amp up partner play? There are different sex positions that incorporate couples' vibrators into your intimate life. Keep exploring, experimenting, and enjoying the adventure of sexual discovery with your partner.

Tips for using a couples vibrator together

Set the mood

Before diving in, create the right environment. That may mean decluttering, lighting scented candles, and playing a sensual playlist. Preparing your space and setting an inviting atmosphere can be as significant as foreplay. Remember, the journey of exploration is as important as the destination, so savor every moment. 

Get your vibrator ready

To have a great time with vibrators, being prepared is essential. Ensure your device is fully charged, get to know its features, and give the instruction manual a quick read for safe and fun usage. It's a good idea to test it out on your own before using it with a partner and remember to clean it thoroughly for a hygienic experience.

Use lubricant

Using lube is super important. It boosts comfort, reduces the risk of injury, and makes things way more pleasurable. When picking a lube, think about the material of your vibrator and what works best for you. Water-based lubes, like Pjur Aqua, are great for vibrators made with silicone, and are compatible with condoms. Silicone lubricant lasts a little longer than water-based lube, but it isn’t compatible with vibrators made with silicone. And oil-based lubes, while great for longevity, aren’t compatible with condoms or silicone vibrators. 

Foreplay first

Foreplay is a super important step in creating a pleasurable experience. You can mix it up with a sensual massage, teasing, or some oral sex. Foreplay isn't just a warm-up; it's a tremendous part of the sensual journey. If you need interesting foreplay ideas, try incorporating sensory deprivation techniques into your foreplay.

Clean and store your vibrator

Don’t forget to clean your couples vibrator after each use with mild soap and warm water or an antibacterial sex toy cleaner, not just for the cleanliness factor, but to have it ready on demand when you want to use it again! After play, store it separately in its box or dedicated storage bag to maintain quality. 

Takeaway

Using a couples vibrator together can feel like a magical adventure that unlocks a whole new world of intimate exploration and satisfaction. These exciting products bring double the pleasure during sex, spicing things up and making sex even more mind-blowing. Knowing how to use a couples vibrator is an exciting journey of communication, openness, and discovery. It's all about exploring each other's bodies in new and thrilling ways, deepening the connection and intimacy. So why wait? Try out a provocatively pleasurable couples' vibrator to experience a whole new world of sensations.


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